Silence in Death

What do you say to someone during their time of bereavement?

I really have no idea. One thing I do know...sometimes, less is more. Personally, I would not want to hear "___ is in a better place." "God called home another one of his angels" is not ideal in terms of words of encouragement. We are all at different walks in our lives. Anyone could hear those words roll off someone's tongue and  blame God for allowing something  to happen to a good person. I was that person nineteen years ago.

I was submerged in sadness and confusion. Bitterness turned into anger. When you are eight years old , you should be daddy's princess. I was his on the weekends.  For two days a week,I spent time building a relationship with my amazing step mom while my dad worked. When my dad passed, a part of me was angered. I should have known more about him. At the time I had no relationship with God. As time progressed, I became a ticking time bomb. Only time could tell when I would take all of my anger out on the next victim.

Crying did not help. The pen became my friend as poetry unleashed all of the emotion I failed to express during my time of bereavement.  

As an adult, I pray silently for tragedies I see on the news, for my friends who have lost loved ones and for those who do not understand that God is not punishing you, me ,or the children who pass everyday.  

We are being humbled by every giant that comes our way. It is up to us to share our testimonies so our Savior can heal someone through us.

My silence in death will bring life to your peace. Know that you are not alone. When my voice fails, my prayers,and thoughts will thrive. 

Shay Nefeteria