Mommy Mondays: Midori on being a Young Co-Parent

Happy Monday, Ribbies!

Today on R.I.B.  my sister Midori came through to chat. Let’s get to it.

Tell is about yourself. 

 My name is Midori. I am a Capricorn, twenty-seven and I’m a child of God (laughs). My current occupation is Pharmacy Technician. I’m very proud of the CPHT at the end of my name. I worked hard for it!

Tell us about your son.

My son Aj is funny. His personality is big, loud, and great. He is wildly intelligent. I like that AJ is family- oriented; he gets that from me. My baby is a sour patch. That is how I would describe him.

Tell us about your Motherhood journey thus far.

Motherhood has been up and down. Some days are obviously easier than others. I can say without a doubt that my son and I have grown together since I had him at the tender age of twenty-one. My son motivates me to do better, to be better. I want to give him the life that I had growing up- just a good life in general. Motherhood has taught me patience.

What type of parenting style do you have?

That’s the bro. AJ is sensitive so we talk about everything. I like that he talks to me about every thing under the sun. I want him to learn from me and not from outside sources like his friends. Lying to my son is not an  option for me. I would say that I am not an authoritative parent but, a liberal- disciplinary, if that makes sense.

Is there any advice you have for the moms out there in their 20s?

Giving up on your dreams is a big NO! Your goals and dreams may take the back burner for a little while but, anything can be achieved. You can live your life with your child. You can grow together. Find your own method to parenting and do what works for you. As a young mother, you may find yourself comparing  your child to other children and their stages. I do not advise anyone to do that, every child is different.

What would you change about your journey as a mom?

I could have waited until I was older. I would have wanted to be more stable. Financial stability is important. If I had finished school first, things may have been less challenging but, there’s nothing wrong with a little challenge every now and again.

What does the ideal co-parenting situation look like to you? How do you work to achieve it daily?

Friendship. You have to maintain friendship. Communication is important and that comes with friendship. We have to be on the same page when it comes to discipline, home- life, scheduling,etc. Keep in mind the child is the most important thing in the whole situation.

How I achieve this- My son’s father and I have always been friends. When things failed to work out with my son’s father, we stood on our friendship. We are on the same page ninety-five percent of the time when it comes to raising our son.

I’m going to give you a word and you tell me the first thing that comes to mind.

Midori- loving

Self Care- Alone time

Motherhood-exciting

Life- cherish

Co- parenting- effort

Thank you for joining me for Mommy Monday, Midori. 

Have a question for Midori, drop a comment. 

What are some co-parenting tips and tricks that you all care to share?

xoxo,  

Shay Nefeteria

AJ takes first grade Summer 2018