Truth Telling Tuesday’s

It is the first Tuesday of the month!

Truth telling Tuesday’s are back.  

We are in last days of 2017. Some of us are living happily with or without a partner while others are suffering in silence. The discussion today is meant to ruffle some feathers and/or awaken that part of YOU that loves yourself first and foremost. We all are guilty of losing or suppressing self needs and wants when entering a new or even a long-term relationship with someone. 

Todays topics: Infidelity | Adultry | Trust

I am a woman but, I do not speak for all women. I can only speak my truths gained by my experiences.

My question for men and women out there is: When is enough, enough? At what point do we evaluate our relationships, come to a conclusion about the type of relationship we are in vs. the relationship that we want and move on ( in some cases passed) toxicity? 

In an easy, detached life, I say once a person shows you who they are (i.e. a liar, cheater), run in the opposite direction and, never look back! We would probably all be lonely and single, right? What about when you have invested time and money? How easy is it to walk away from someone you have grown fond of? Someone you may have children with or share the responsibility of raising children with in general? 

I say it is time to move on when: 

Vocalizing your needs and wants does not result in compromise (This has to come from both sides)

The source of lying and cheating are known or unknown and professional/spiritual help is not a top priority

You have completely lost yourself. If you look in the mirror and that person staring back at you is foreign, how can you successfully forgive or bring anything healthy to a relationship? It's time to work on YOU and then a relationship.

When your partner /husband/wife has an addiction (drugs, sex, food, etc) and they are constantly hurting you and/or there are children involved.  

When all guilty parties lack accountability and are unwilling to address mistakes, there is no real healing of the broken trust, infidelity or adultery. 

Queens and Kings, there is nothing in life better than having Self-Love and respect. We often get into relationships where we lose ourselves. Losing yourself to anything besides growth is not worth it. 

I challenge you to share this post today and evaluate yourself and your relationship. 

What can you change to make it healthier ?  

To keep you whole and to keep your cup running over? 

Join me on FB for a discussion! 

-Shay Nefeteria ✌🏾